Toast is indeed useful, and as Ken pointed out, it has a couple nice features, such as preventing an under-burn. I personally do not use Toast, but that's just cause I am too lazy to check it out since what I have works right now. Why fix what isn't broken...
What you read about the 2x and 4x is most likely an issue that cropped up some time ago when customers of the internal 2x SuperDrive started buying 4x media. There was an issue where the SuperDrive was not detecting the burn process and it would just burn it set out waiting to see what it couldn't see. A FirmWare fix came out later which allows for 4x DVD-R media to be used on the 2x SuperDrive, but if memory serves me, at only 1x.
Buying 4x media and these Macs with 4x SuperDrives should yield 4x speeds. 2x media on a 2x drive should yield a 2x burn, and if I am mistaken about the 4x media on a internal firmware updated super drive yielding 1x performance, someone will surely correct me. I have 2x media so I have not noticed any slowness.
Can you use Toast to burn a DVD with just the internal Apple SuperDrive and a copy of the VIDEO_TS and AUDIO_TS folder? The answer is YES. Can you control the speed with Toast? I don't own Toast, so someone will else will add comments I am sure and let you know.
Good luck learning DVD authoring! Stick with it!