First, you don't have to bring your project into Final Cut Pro to render, you can render right in Motion: Mark > Ram Preview > Play Range, or same as FCP, Command-R.
Second, the amount of RAM you have determines the duration of video that will play back in real time - the more RAM, the more video can be cached.
For playback performance, the graphics card is what matters. It's the card that more important than your CPU or amount of RAM. Your stock card is the biggest problem.